Moving House, Moving Forward With Confidence

My friend has been talking to me at lot about her new house. Over the last few months she and her husband went on a rollercoaster ride. When they found the house she was so excited. Moving house was moving forward with confidence and she could not wait! The challenges started almost immediately. They were pipped to the post and their offer was not accepted at all ! The original couple’s offer then fell through and the house was offered to them. They found out some “interesting” history from neighbours that did not come up in the searches. They had a trampoline dumped in the garden as it was empty property. The solicitors were not very speedy with the conveyancing and they needed prompting – a lot! Time was against them and the mortgage offer would only be until the end of January…..

I then got a text to say they had completed and yesterday (Friday) they started moving in! Throughout all these issues they kept going, kept moving forward until the day they moved in. They are now starting a new beginning, despite all the upheavals and disappointments.

The thing is with new beginnings that something happens and change occurs. Sometimes its things that change with time e.g the dawning of a New Year and the growing up of children. In other ways its the purposeful decisions that lead to change e.g. house moving.

When you realise there needs to be a change

Even when you have been in a house for a while you can still have new beginnings. We have been in our house for nearly 10 years. When we moved the children were still in primary school and we adjusted the house to the needs of young family. Now we have 4 adults in the house and suddenly there is not enough room! Soon there will be only two adults in the house (hopefully!) and I need an office when we have a children’s snug instead.

My logical side tells me that we need to clear the snug and make it into an office. My emotional side has been putting it off for at least 2 years. I do not want to change the snug in any way as that will mean that my children have grown up and no longer need a snug and by inference me as their mother. That thought has made me very sad. It has kept me stuck for all that time. So much so, I have got into the habit of closing the door to the snug as I could not bare to look at it. Basically, that thought has kept me without an office I so desperately need.

What decisions are you putting off?

We are sensitive creatures. Intuition is innate and will guide us through these decisions if we have the patience and courage to listen. At times, we sit in confusion and fear as we cannot quite see the road clearly or have the courage to take the road- remember the Lion from the “Wizard of Oz”? He needed Dorothy, Scarecrow and Tin Man to help him get to the Emerald City and the Wizard. With help, he was moving forward with confidence.

The amazing thing is that he did not get his courage from the Wizard. He just needed the support of his friends to get him onto the road to get him moving forward with confidence. Otherwise he would have still been lurking at the side of the yellow brick road not knowing which way to go, or to move at all. He would have missed out on all their adventures.

Do you have a snug you cannot bring yourself to redecorate? Are you waiting for friends to come and help you back onto the yellow brick road? What happens if you close the door to the snug, refusing to look at it, or stay at the side of road? What if you found the house of your dreams but gave up once you realised someone had dumped a trampoline in the back garden?

Who can help?

It was my coach who helped me recognise that I am a mother no matter if we have a snug or not. She supported me as I began moving forward with confidence and yes, we have measured up and I am getting the BIGGEST DESK EVER BY THE WINDOW (its the small things 🙂 ). I will have storage for all my files and at the end of the day I can close the door – purposefully- and leave work behind and have some family time with my (nearly) grown up children.

Can I help you move forward? Is it your work or home situation that needs looking at and remodelling- or a complete change like moving house?

Where will your next decision take you?

If you need help please do get in touch and I can help support you to move forward Contact Me.